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When a relationship falls apart, what one is left with are memories of a time gone by, figuratively and literally in the form of pictures and momentos. In a bid to move forward, while some choose to do a cleanse by donating these items to charity, others let the flames engulf them. Then there are those who choose to give it all away to the Museum of Broken Relationships, actor Russell Crowe on the other hand has chosen to let it all go under the hammer. After splitting with his estranged wife Danielle Spencer, Crowe is determined to “move forward into fresh air”. And walking the talk, he has announced that he will be hosting an auction of 227 personal artefacts in order to help him put their nine-year marriage behind him.

LEARNING THE ‘ART OF DIVORCE’ FROM CROWE

The Gladiator actor will be including diamond rings, watches, guitars, movie memorabilia, and fine art into the lot, as well as two motorcycles and a 2001 Mercedes which has been valued between $15,000 and $25,000. It will all go under the hammer in a new lot entitled ‘The Art of Divorce’.  Russell in a statement released through auction house Sotheby’s Australia, said, “Divorce has its way of making you really examine the things that are essential in life — and the things that are not. Through the process I had a look around and realised I had a lot of stuff. Career stuff, stuff I’ve collected, and stuff in general. Boxes and boxes of stuff... so in the spirit of moving forward into fresh air, here’s a portion of that collection of stuff.” The auction is set to take place in Sydney, Australia, on April 7, on what would have been Crowe and Spencer’s 15th wedding anniversary. And while the Robin Hood actor has clearly chosen to lose the emotional and physical baggage to start afresh, we asked relationship experts if it’s a wise move, and here’s what they had to say.

BURNING MOMENTOS IS OFTEN THE RESULT OF AN OUTBURST

While some view burning momentos as a cleanse, clinical psychologist Seema Hingorrany puts forward a contrary view. She says that letting the flames engulf these physical memories is often the result of an outburst of anger and unresolved feelings. She adds, “If past memories are not processed, often personal items can cause emotional turbulence and grief. Personally, I feel one should donate them. Let these gifts be useful to someone out there. While burning a momento is generally an outburst of anger, it’s followed by guilt and regret. So, donating it or selling it is definitely a better way of disposing these personal items, giving one time to process the emotions associated with it.”

‘CROWE IS MAKING THE RIGHT MOVE’

Psychiatrist Dr Hemant Mittal believes the actor has made the right decision. He says, “Russell Crowe is doing the right thing. In my professional capacity, I believe, it’s very important for a person to sell or dissociate with any material possession that reminds them of a previous relationship. It’s actually more so when we are dealing with sensitive personalities. The first two years are essential to moving ahead in life, and even the slightest of objects can rejog old memories, stopping one from moving ahead. In case of immovable or high value properties, it’s essential to cast them aside as much as possible.”

Ultimately, life comes full circle and if you want closure you have to start shedding all that emotional baggage, and the first step in that direction is to get rid of all those memories that take up shelf space. It will give you room to start over and with a fresh slate, and that’s what Crowe is doing. While we have heard of celebs and others auctioning or selling engagement rings or wedding bands after a break-up, this is probably one of those rare moments when an actor has chosen to publicly start afresh by auctioning items from his past. It’s as much of a public declaration of independence as one can get, and clearly it also makes sense to let someone else have the items you no longer have any use for.



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