I'm a chronic "yes" girl. I say yes to things I genuinely want to go to, things I dread going to, and anything I feel obliged to attend. Why? Because I feel the need to be everything to everyone. This often leaves very little fuel in the tank for "me time." I was once so overwhelmed by all the gray dots in my calendar that I sat on the couch and cried (how ridiculous). And it was all my own fault! I could've said no to at least 70 percent of those gray dots. Instead, I couldn't see a weekend to myself for the next two and a half months.
The worst part about overcommitting is that you start to not only resent yourself but also the person you've made the plan with. You hate yourself for saying yes in the first place, and then you hate them for making your phone "ding!" with a reminder that you have two hours to get your sh*t together to meet them. Again, not their fault! This is all on you.
So in light of me sometimes overloading my schedule to the point of tears, I've made a promise that 2018 is the year of saying "no." To all my fellow "yes" people, here's what we need to do to change the pattern.