Remember "edging" from Orange is the New Black (the technique of bringing yourself to the brink of orgasm, and then stopping)? It turns out it's totally legit. Both men and women achieve the most satisfying orgasm when desire is built up slowlyÃ¢â‚¬”and then delayedÃ¢â‚¬”before finishing, according to a new study in the Journal of Sex Research.
Researchers asked 38 men and 38 women to masturbateÃ¢â‚¬”first at home, and then in the research lab. Before and after masturbating, they rated their mood, arousal, and their orgasmic intensity on a scale of 0 to 10 (where 0 means nothing's happening and 10 is knock-your-socks-off intensity). They were also asked to stop mid-masturbationÃ¢â‚¬”when they were almost-but-not-quite to climaxÃ¢â‚¬”and write down their ratings again. Sounds like a mood killer, right? Well, not exactly.
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Interestingly, when participants marked high arousal in the almost-there stage right before orgasm, they also had the most intense and satisfying orgasms when they finally climaxed. The researchers suggest that the orgasms may have been amped up by the act of pausing when they were super close. So, just like "edging," it seems that the best orgasms come from bringing yourself right to the brink and then stopping and slowing down (in this case, to mark their ratings) before starting over again.
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Of course, masturbating in a lab isn't quite the same as doing it within the privacy of your own bedroom or actually having sex with a partner. That said, we do suggest trying this at home. Whether you're by yourself or with a partner, bring yourself about 80-90 percent of the way to orgasm and then pause. Slowly start back up and stop when you're close again. Do this until your arousal is pretty much through the roof (or even just once, like the participants in the study) and your eventual climax will be so much more satisfying. Who knew your best orgasm ever could be this easy?
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