Let's face it, Chris Harrison is the unsung hero of The Bachelor franchise. He consoles the contestants through heartbreak, poses thought-provoking questions to the bachelors/bachelorettes, and always tells you when it's the last rose of the night (as if we're not keeping track, Chris!).
But it turns out he also has some sage relationship wisdom from his 27 seasons (!) hosting the show. In a recent interview with Parade.com, he opened up about what it takes to find loveÃ¢â‚¬”on and off the set. His biggest advice: let go of control. "I go back to Juan PabloÃ¢â‚¬”that's one of the things he had trouble with. He's very controlling and you really have to lose control," says Chris. "Give yourself to the producers, give yourself to the process and that's a tough thing to do because you're very vulnerable and you need to be open to be hurt."
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The thing is, that's true whether you're on a reality show or not, which is basically Chris' point: "This sounds cheesy, but to find love that's kind of how you have to be, you have to be really vulnerable. That's what Andi's [the new Bachelorette] doing a good job of right now and it's what Juan Pablo didn't do a good job of."
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Essentially, Chris just summed up the main relationship lesson we can steal from this not-always-realistic reality show. Sure, your first dates don't take place at a stunning waterfall in Fiji, but it is true that you need to relinquish some control and let your guard down in order to really connect with someoneÃ¢â‚¬”and hopefully, fall in love. (Check out more love lessons from The Bachelor here!)
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