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Last week, after a new poll revealedÃ‚Â that more than one in four U.K. brides want to keep or at least hyphenate their last names, we got hundreds of men to spill their uncensored thoughts on women who decide not to change their names after marriage. The results were pretty shocking:Ã‚Â 63.3 percent ofÃ‚Â MenÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s HealthÃ‚Â followers said they would be upset if their wives kept their maiden namesÃ¢â‚¬”and a whopping 96.3 percent said they wouldnÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t take a womanÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s last name if she asked them to.
Of course, how men feel on the subject is only partÃ¢â‚¬”and frankly, the less important partÃ¢â‚¬”of the story. So we asked Women's Health's Facebook followers to share what motivated their decisions to keep their last namesÃ¢â‚¬”or to take their husbands'Ã¢â‚¬”after marriage. Here's what they had to say:
"I'm getting married next July and could not be happier to legally cement our commitment to each other. That being said, I'm not changing my name. I love my name and the family I associate with it, and it's the name that's on two diplomas and two State Bar certificates. I put a lot of work into creating a reputation for my name, and I don't think marrying someone makes my past accomplishments irrelevant. I'm proud of who I am and what I've done." -Andreanna Smith
"I still don't understand the reason for changing my last name. I didn't when I got married, and I love my husband very much. But even if we are married and love each other and have children, we are still independent individuals. I like to honor my parents by keeping my last name." -Marla PeÃƒÂ±a
"I'm keeping mine for now. His last name is Frankenstein, and I work in a middle school. Enough said." -Kelly Brennan
"Twenty-five years ago, to the consternation of many (although not my father; he was pleased), I kept my maiden name and hyphenated it with my husband's name. It was not a decision based on anything more than that being a Wiggins is a part of who I am and always want to be. It wasn't about ownership or feminism. In spite of what many women think, you do lose a part of who you were before you married. It just happens. (Men lose a part of who they were too; for some reason we don't talk about that. Maybe we should??) For me, keeping my name was a reminder of who I was and where I came from." -Nancy Wiggins-Goff
"I dropped my maiden name like a hot potato. It was one of my favorite things about getting married. After a tumultuous childhood, I was more than happy to change my name. It felt like a new beginning." -Jennifer Riddell
"I did [keep my name]. It bothers me that women are expected to give up their maiden names when they get married. It's like you're suddenly supposed to forget who you were for for 20-30 years of your life. My now-husband knew shortly after we started dating that I had no intention of changing my last name when I got married." -Kerrie Mitchener McDevitt
"I kept my maiden name because my last name isn't the measure of my commitment to my husbandÃ¢â‚¬”my words and actions are. Also, I just really didn't want to go through changing my name on documents and credit cards when I love my name (as does my husband) already." -Elizabeth Lawrence
"I was nearly finished with a decade long Ph.D. program when I got married ( and had been with my husband for eight years). I was known professionally by my maiden name, yet wanted to take my husband's name as a symbol of the fusion of our lives. Therefore, I took my maiden last name and made it my legal middle name, then I took my husband's last name. Have never regretted the decision." -Kerra Gazerro Hanson
"It really annoys me, this losing your identity junkÃ¢â‚¬Â¦ Your maiden name is still a man's name! I didn't see an issue either way, and I don't still. It's a personal choice, but I wanted the same name as my husband so that if we had children we would all have the same name. Plus, I love him. So I was proud to take his name." -Lydia Charmaine Higson
"I had been writing for the local newspaper when I got married. So many times I heard men and even women ask, 'Who did you used to be before you got married?' I would always think, 'used to be?!' I still am who I was. I decided to keep my maiden name for five years after I married and then decided to hyphenate. So many times a woman's identity can get lost in marriage. And besides, I'm no one's 'property,' which is why the name change used to occur, historically." -Suzie Winsett Walton
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