Have you ever envisioned yourself getting down on one knee, or do you think popping the question should be your partner's responsibility? It turns out, women are still taking the traditional route when it comes to proposals. Seventy-five percent of Americans say it's OK for women to propose, but only five percent of married people say that the woman was the one who actually popped the question, according to a new AP/WE TV poll reported by The Today Show.
The most surprising result of the survey: Younger adults may actually be the most traditional. More than one third of people under age 30 thought that female proposals were "unacceptable"Ã¢â‚¬”um, what?Ã¢â‚¬”and this group of young adults was more likely than any other age group to say they weren't on board with the role reversal.
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We were pretty baffled by this strong response, so we asked readers to share their thoughts on the issue. Over 200 of you weighed in on Facebook, and the majority was all for female proposalsÃ¢â‚¬”a few even did it themselves! Check out some of the comments we received:
"I don't see anything wrong with it. When two people are in love and want to spend the rest of their lives together, it should not matter who asks who and who says yes as long as they both agree to be together." Ã¢â‚¬”Divya Sachdeva
"I would do it. I believe it shows girls and women that courage and love heavily outweigh the status quo. If you want to get married and don't want to wait for him to ask, go for it! No one can tell you what to do, or not. You're in love and don't have to wait if it's what you both want." Ã¢â‚¬”Britany Gould
"Uh, no way. Screams 'desperate' in my opinion.... It's the only time guys get to put themselves out there and [are] vulnerable. We have enough on our plates as it is." Ã¢â‚¬”Melissa Schneider
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"I don't think I would. I like tradition. If we have the same goals, there should be no hesitation on his part to get down on one knee." Ã¢â‚¬”Kayla Elberg
"Is a woman asking point blank really any worse than the woman who drops not-so-subtle hints that she wants the guy to ask her? You know the type: the 'oh look at that beautiful ring over there!' type... The 'three of my friends just got engaged, they're so lucky' type. I think that is way pushier than just asking for what you want." Ã¢â‚¬”Shiloh Belanger
"I proposed to my fiancÃƒÂ© first, and he found it a breath of fresh air. The thing is, if I am confident and sure of having someone as my life partner I would not wait for him to propose. Once confidence takes [precedence], fear of rejection takes a back seat." Ã¢â‚¬”Warsia Rabia
"Definitely goes against the grain, but since there's been a role reversal in recent years, it works. However, I'm traditional and would rather be proposed to." Ã¢â‚¬”Crystina Diaz
Clearly, there's no right or wrong way to say "I do"Ã¢â‚¬”or to get down on one knee yourself. If anything, these vastly different opinions show that the norms are changing, and maybe this is one more out-dated relationship rule to break.
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