You know the thought has crossed your mind: Will my partner still want to go down there after I've had a baby? Turns out, both new moms and their partners experience ups and downs in sexual desire during those first few months post-baby, according to a study published recently in theÃ‚Â Journal of Sexual Medicine.
While past studies have looked at how new moms' sex lives are impacted when the infant first comes home,Ã‚Â researchers from the University of Michigan wanted to examine how their partners' levels of sexual desire were affected. So for the study, they recruited 114 people whose partners had given birth within the past seven years and asked them to recount various details of their sex life in the three months after their child was born.
While the first sexual activity that most participants returned to after having a baby was masturbation (no surprise there),Ã‚Â about 82 percent of the people who'd been having sex with their partners before the child was born said they went back in the bedroom within that three-month post-baby period. What's more, nearly 70 percent of the people who'd had oral sex before the birth of their little one started doing it again during that three-month window (and the number of birth mothers on the receiving end was about the same as the number of study participantsÃ¢â‚¬”so the partners weren't the only ones benefitting). When partners did lose interest in sex, it was often for the same reasons that birth moms did:Ã‚Â stress, fatigue, and a lack of free time.
For the record, doctors generally recommend waiting four to six weeks after delivery before having sex; this gives your body sufficient time to recover from labor. For some women, getting comfortable with the idea of twisting the sheets again can take even longerÃ¢â‚¬”normal post-baby experiences likeÃ‚Â exhaustion and anxiety can put a serious cramp in your libido (and, as mentioned above, these can also affect your partner's desire).
The good news? Factors like vaginal sutures, other types of vaginal injuries, and whether the new mom was breastfeedingÃ‚Â didn't seem to have a huge impact on study participants' sexual appetite. In fact, the people in the study saidÃ‚Â their partner's level of interest in having sex with them was theÃ‚Â top factor that fueled their post-baby libido. Translation? If you seem into the idea of getting busy in the month or two after giving birth, you'll probably find that your partner is more than willing to help you out.