The ‘it’s complicated’ sex
Sometimes, you’re crushing hard on someone and the feeling is mutual, but things don’t seem to move in the direction you expected. You hang out, make out and end up having sex, but that’s about it. There’s no talk of a relationship or of going on a date, and you find yourself in the midst of this frustrating (but amazingly hot) sexual mess.
Make up sex
Most couples in their 20s have had this type of sex. You fight with your SO and usually solve those fights in bed. Granted, sex after an especially volatile fight can be extraordinary, but it can also muddle up your head ultimately leading to a break up, or unsolved issues.
For many, their 20s are all about having fun and getting wasted. We aren’t advocating drinking and drunk sex here, but come on, haven’t we all been there at some point? The hangover and sense of guilt that follows the morning after aside, drunken sex with your partner or with someone you just met can be quite risky (read pregnancy, STDs, non-consensual sex).
Bad, bad sex
We say ‘bad, bad’ because the sex is so indescribably bad that you would rather not think about it. This type of sex does nothing for you, or your self-esteem, and leaves a bad taste in your mouth (literally, too). It’s clumsy and gives you absolutely no pleasure, and you can forget about an orgasm. Makes you wonder why you did it in the first place.
The can’t-get-better-than-this sex
And then you finally have the kind of sex that you will never forget. It’s sensual, uninhibited sex that you can’t get enough of. You roll on wave after wave of passion and when you finally come down, you feel absolutely sated and calm. You almost feel like you will never be able to surpass this feeling ever again.
The ‘shouldn’t have done it’ sex
You know what they say about the forbidden fruit effect. This kind of sex is probably bad for you, but that’s exactly what makes it feel so, so good. Sex with the ex? Sex with a guy who you know is a player? They all scream ‘bad idea’ and almost always come with regret the next day.
The self-love sex
You don’t need a guy to make you feel good and your 20s are the perfect time to realise this. You know yourself best, so who better to get yourself going, right? Self-love is also a great way to explore your likes and dislikes, making sex with a partner that much better!
The ‘uh-oh’ sex
So, you’ve been friends with a guy or a co-worker and you’ve never had any feelings for him. But suddenly, after spending a lot of time together, the line between friend and something more starts to get blurred. This is the kind of sex where you either really hit it off and find your one true love or things go from great to awkward quick. Uh-oh indeed.
The one-night Tinder stand
With all the dating apps available in the market, it’s impossible for this to not make its way into the list. You both know why you are using the app, so after a couple of flirty exchange of messages, you finally catch up for a seemingly harmless cup of coffee. Of course, we all know where that is going to lead. But as long as you two get what you want, it’s a win-win, right?
The sex that comes after a dry spell
There will come that one point in your life when sex is just not as exciting for you. And that’s okay. Because once that dry spell ends and you get active between the sheets again, it just might be better than ever before. Madonna sings it best with, “Like a virgin, hey/Touched for the very first time”. Hang in there, girl.
With inputs from Simran Ahuja