Talk about a man on a mission: One guy tracked his entire sex life with his wife for a year to gain a healthier perspective on sex in their relationship, according to this post on Reddit. And sure, he also hoped it would result in more time between the sheets (Spoiler alert: it did!).
According to the post, this 20-something couple has been together for nearly a decade and married for the last few years. Like many long-term couples, their sex life started to hit a rough patch, which the guy blamed on their mismatched libidos. So he decided to track their behaviors over the course of the year to see how to get their groove back. He logged dates, sex, oral sex, orgasms, sexual initiations, and other activities (like masturbation) in a spreadsheet. That added up to 108 romps and 201 orgasms (109 for him and 92 for her) over 372 days. Not too shabby!
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He also stumbled upon some random but interesting findings, like that they were pretty much guaranteed to have sex on the sixteenth day of the month, which was about 14 to 15 days before her period (Research shows your cycle definitely affects your sex lifeÃ¢â‚¬”check out our tips for having hotter sex all month long). And on another curious note, as the guy started masturbating less frequently, he found that he ended up having more sex (well, that makes sense!).
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By the end of his experiment, they were having sex on average two times a week, which is great news since couples are happier when they hit the sheets at least once a week. So what did he learn from all this? He admits that tracking everything was fun and really helped him reassess his relationshipÃ¢â‚¬”for instance, he often used to forget when they last had sex. And he was "pleasantly surprised" by the amount of sex they were having (hooray!). His biggest takeaway, however, was that both partners need to initiate sex if they want to score between the sheets.
So should you keep track of your bedroom action? It couldn't hurt; just make sure you're using the stats to improve your sex life in a healthy wayÃ¢â‚¬”and not to point out that your partner is slacking.
Going through a dry spell yourself? Totally normal. Check out these 13 signs you need to spice up your sex life to make sex more fun and learn how to get that bed rockinÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ again. No spreadsheets required.
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