It's fine if you are a polite person. Or a courageous woman who's not afraid to say sorry. But apologising to your partner all the time, even when you are not at fault, in order to settle relationship issues isn't always the best solution. The point is, you shouldn't be saying sorry unnecessarily. If you are in a healthy relationship, you should be unapologetic about things you believe in and are comfortable with.
Here are a few things you should never apologise for in a relationship:
Saying no: You don't acquiesce to all the plans that your sweetheart makes. And that's fine. If you say no once in a while, don't be apologetic about it.
Mistakes you made in the past: Bygones are bygones. Positive and practical people move on and learn from mistakes. In fact, everyone makes mistakes. Yet if you have to say sorry again and again to your partner for mistakes you have made in the past, then there's something wrong with your relationship.
'Me' time: Sometimes you just love spending time by yourself or guarding your space from your partner. Don't feel guilty. You don't need to say sorry for putting yourself first sometimes.
Being yourself: You are who you are. If you are in a relationship, your partner should acknowledge your positive qualities and accept the negative ones as well. So don't say sorry if you don't change yourself.
Getting emotional: There's no harm in being a little emotional sometimes. That's what makes us human, among other things. So don't apologise if you are accused of being prone to emotional outbursts.
For not agreeing: Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to agree with everything bae says. Having your own opinion and stance on things is very important because it ensures that you both maintain your individuality. Similarly, if your partner likes jazz and you don’t, there’s nothing to feel sorry about. Besides, opposites attract, right?
For aiming for things: You should never have to apologise for wanting to do well at work or any other area in your life. Even if it means plugging in late nights or weekends to reach your goals. An understanding partner will never make you choose between him and your other priorities. Keep in mind, however, to not take your partner for granted and to make ample time for him too.
For eating more: If you eat more often or more than him, then do so unapologetically. Don’t fall for society’s stereotypes about girls have dainty little appetites that consist of only salads. You do you, girl.
For wanting, or not wanting, sex: Ladies, it’s the 21st century. Let’s say goodbye to hiding sexual urges or desires and waiting for the guy to make the first move. Be a boss and own not just your sexuality, but your consent to. If you aren’t in the mood for sex, just say so. You aren’t obligated to be in the mood for it at the same time your partner is.
With inputs from Simran Ahuja
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