Ã‚Â The secret to dropping those stubborn pounds, getting ahead at work, improving your relationships, and having better sex? Making it fun, says Gabrielle Bernstein, life coach and author of the New York Times bestselling book, May Cause Miracles.
Ã¢â‚¬Å“When you feel great, you attract greatnessÃ¢â‚¬”and successÃ¢â‚¬”so rather than work so hard to get that job, make that guy like you or amp up your social life, simply make it your mission to have more fun in everything you do,Ã¢â‚¬Â says Bernstein, whose new book is a guide to elevating every aspect of your life to achieve balance and happiness. Infusing fun in to your relationships, your career and even your self-improvement goals will bring more positive energy into your life, says Bernstein.
And that energy will keep you committed to your goals so youÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ll naturally excel in all areas of your life. Plus, the people you interact with will notice and theyÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ll want to be around you: Ã¢â‚¬Å“As a positive, fun person, youÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ll give off brighter vibes and people will want to work with you, date you, and be your friend,Ã¢â‚¬Â says Bernstein.
Here, five simple ways to amp up your life simply by having more F-U-N:
1. Create a Power Posse Ã¢â‚¬Å“One of the greatest ways to create positive change and have fun is to team up with a crew of positive friends,Ã¢â‚¬Â says Bernstein. Doing something thatÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s not necessarily fun (like your workout) with a friend can make it fun and less of a chore. Ã¢â‚¬Å“If you want to lose some weight, start a healthy cooking club; if you want to be more creative, take an art class with your girls,Ã¢â‚¬Â suggests Bernstein. Plus, working towards positive goals with friends helps you stay committed. And while youÃ¢â‚¬â„¢re succeeding in your personal goals, you may be tacking years on to your lifeÃ¢â‚¬”A study published in the journal Epidemiology & Community Health found that having strong friendships can actually help you to live longer!
2. Dance Your Ass Off Not only does it burn serious cals, but it will amp up your energy and, according to recent research, can even improve your mental health. Ã¢â‚¬Å“Make a commitment to shake your booty at least once a day--Five minutes of letting loose is all you need to change your mood,Ã¢â‚¬Â says Bernstein. Listening to music is another proven way to lift your spirits and re-energize, so play some tunes while youÃ¢â‚¬â„¢re at it (Bernstein suggests creating a playlist with songs that make you happy like this one.)
3. Put Pleasure First Ã¢â‚¬Å“Toss your inhibitions aside and get more wild in the bedroom,Ã¢â‚¬Â says Bernstein. In our busy lives, itÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s easy to get in to a routine, which quickly becomes boring. But itÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s easyÃ¢â‚¬”and funÃ¢â‚¬”to spice things up. Ã¢â‚¬Å“DonÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t be afraid to try new sex positions or toys,Ã¢â‚¬Â says Bernstein. Click here for new sex positions to try and check out these sex toys for couples. When you have more fun in the bedroom, your relationship benefits outside the bedroom too. Plus, it guarantees youÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ll stay at the top of your guyÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s mind long afterwards: Ã¢â‚¬Å“It's always great to have your man daydreaming about what happened the night before,Ã¢â‚¬Â says Bernstein.
4. Get Creative Ã¢â‚¬Å“Creative activities activate our right brain and enhance our intuition and capacity to see beyond what seems logical,Ã¢â‚¬Â says Bernstein. That means youÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ll be more likely to push boundaries and think outside the box. So bust out the painting supplies, decorate, or get crafty. Or, get inspired to DIY by making a Pinterest board of stuff you love, suggests Bernstein.
5. Be Silly Ã¢â‚¬Å“DonÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t be afraid to crack jokes more often, dance like a wild woman, and sing out loud,Ã¢â‚¬Â says Bernstein. Letting loose helps you to be more authenticÃ¢â‚¬”so youÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ll create deeper connections with people around you, whether itÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s with old friends, new friends, or your guy (or the guy you want to be Ã¢â‚¬Å“yourÃ¢â‚¬Â guy). Plus, laughing can actually release endorphins (the same feel-good chemical that gives you that runnerÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s high). And itÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s good for your physical health as well as your mental health: A University of Maryland study found that laughter can actually protect your heart and ward off heart attacks. So let your silly side come forwardÃ¢â‚¬”youÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ll feel better mentally and physically.
For more tools for clearing negativity and having more fun, check out Bernstein's new book, May Cause Miracles: A 40-day Guidebook of Subtle Shifts for Radical Change.
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