That hottie you spotted across the bar? He'd be thrilled if you went over to talk to him. At least, that's what the majority of Men's Health readers told us in our recent What's Sexy Now survey (featured in our May issue, on newsstands now). A whopping 55 percent of men said that it's sexy when a woman aggressively pursues them. In fact, they responded with a resounding, "Hells yeah!"
"Men, just like women, want to feel attractive and desirable," explains Matthew Hussey, an international relationship expert and author of Get the Guy. "We're filled with the same insecurities as you are, so it's flattering when a woman pursues us."
We hear you loud and clear, fellas. Challenge accepted!
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To nail a perfectly suave and smooth (read: not amazingly awkward) pick-up, we asked Hussey for his fail-proof tips. Commit the following to memory, ladies.
When you initially spot a cute guy, make eye contact with himÃ¢â‚¬”twice. "The first is a half-second look that communicates, 'I've noted your existence,'" says Hussey. "But the second look is accompanied by a slight smile, or a cheeky look over the shoulder that says, 'Yes, I saw you, and I'm curious.'"
Next, signal with a subtle hand gesture that he should come over to you, as if you need to tell him something. Once he gets to you, ask him a favor. "If you're in a bar try, 'Could you hold my jacket for a minute while I hand these drinks to my friends?'" suggests Hussey. Make sure to thank him, of courseÃ¢â‚¬”and then ask him how his night's going. Giving him a compliment doesn't hurt, either. As in, "I'm looking for a watch for my dad and couldn't help but notice yours. It's so luxe lookingÃ¢â‚¬”who makes it?"
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Finally, after a few minutes of getting-to-know-you talkÃ¢â‚¬”and some serious flirtingÃ¢â‚¬”seal the deal with a closer like: "Well, here's my number. Give me a call,'" says Hussey. And just like that? BoomÃ¢â‚¬”you nailed it!
One caveat, though: If you're getting the sense mid-convo that this dude isn't interested (one-word responses or bored, distracted looks are dead giveaways, according to Hussey), make a pain-free exit. "Spot another hot guy in the room and say, 'It's been great talking to you, but I just noticed a friend I haven't seen in ages,'" says Hussey. Hey, you can't make a connection with everyone you meet, but this simple trick is bound to up your odds.
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