There can sometimes be a thin boundary between love and lust. You feel strongly attracted to a person, so much so that you can't bear to be separated from him even for a moment. Is this love? Or just an overpowering urge to get intimate with him? How do you know what you are feeling for the person isn't something transient? Or something that goes beyond the physical? If you feel that you might be confusing lust with love, look for these tell-tale signs:
Somehow sex becomes the primary focus for both of you. If that's the case, take a step back and think hard about what kind of relationship you are aiming for. Be clear about what you want.
You are not particularly interested in knowing each other well. Deep down, you know love isn't really an immediate feeling and needs time to grow. But then you also feel, who has the time?
You have hardly anything in common with the object of your desire. But you continue to see him. You don't mind if your conversations sometimes sound hollow. You tell yourself, words mean nothing, actions do!
You tend to overlook his flaws. Some of his shortcomings do bother you, but then you like to live in the moment and not waste time analysing how these could affect your relationship.
You convince yourself that you like him and he likes you as well even when differences in opinion seem too glaring to be ignored. You assume that as long as you are physically attracted to each other, you must be liking each other a helluva lot. Wilfully blinding yourself, we say.
Sometimes you behave in a selfish manner and push for your likes and desires. A classic sign of lustfulness.
You feel strongly attracted to this person. Yet commitment is the last thing on your mind. You aren't particularly concerned about what the future of the relationship could possibly be.