Real Women Get Brutally Honest About the Times They Broke Girl Code

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Chicks before dicks. Sistas before mistas. Besties before testes. There are countless cutesy catchphrases to sum up girl code, but the message comes across loud and clear: Never betray your friends, especially not for a guy. Everything would be copacetic if all the women you knew followed girl code, but chances are, they don’t. Or maybe you’re the one who thinks it’s a silly set of rules or who has followed your heart, girl code be damned. Here, eight women explain why they broke girl code and whether they’d do it all over again. 

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“My best friend since basically middle school didn’t like the guy I was dating. One year for Halloween, my friend decided a few of us girls would go to a party, but I had a date with my guy. She viewed the situation as my ‘ditching them’ and ‘choosing him over them,’ so our relationship fell apart. I don’t regret my decision—that guy and I will celebrate 10 years of marriage this coming December, and we have two beautiful, hilarious children.” —Jessica H. 

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“I don’t think girl code is just about guys. I think it’s about being loyal to your friends in general. I tell my boyfriend way more about my friends and their love lives than I should, and I definitely feel guilty about it. My friends don’t Tell me not to tell him certain things because they don’t assume I would in the first place. Telling him doesn't really count as telling another person for me, but I know they wouldn’t feel that way.” —Alana R.

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“When I started dating my boyfriend, our mutual friend—who introduced us!began telling him extremely negative things about me behind my back. Had she approached me openly and honestly about whatever feelings were making her do that, I likely would have prioritized her. I don't believe in fighting over men, but she showed me that she didn’t care about our friendship or me. I’m still with my boyfriend, and she and I are no longer friends.” Mara K.

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“A very dear friend of mine was cheating on her husband. When she stopped seeing her other man, I started dating him. To be fair, she’d said I was the only woman she would have been able to stand seeing him with because he was very wealthy and she thought other women would use him for his money. I fell in love with him, but I still wish I’d stuck to girl code and not done it. It became awkward to talk to my friend about my relationship because some of my experiences with him were similar to hers and because his love for me seemed to surpass what he felt for her.” —Marilyn P.

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“I dated my ex-best friend's ex-boyfriend, but I was friends with him also. She broke up with him and then started dating someone else. When I realized I had feelings for my friend's ex-boyfriend, I just went for it since she’d moved on. I dated him for almost a year, learned a lot from being in that relationship, and don’t regret anything from how we got together. My friendship with her didn’t end for that reason, but it changed because I couldn’t talk about my relationship.” —Ariel G.

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"I became close with a group of girls freshman year of college. We eventually drifted apart and were still friendly but nowhere near BFF status. One night, when I was out, I saw one of the girls’ insanely attractive ex. He and I started talking, one thing led to another, and I went home with him. Absolutely no regrets. She and I were no longer close, and if you could see the guy, you’d understand.” —Kim C.

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