Short answer: It depends.
Long answer: It depends on the length and depth of your messages, if youÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ve spoken on the phone, when you feel comfortable, and lastly, how many dud dates you can tolerate going onÃ¢â‚¬Â¦
Length and Depth of Your Messages A first date doesnÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t have to be a blind date. You should (at least) vaguely know who you are about to meet. That said, if you try to put off meeting a guy until you could write a biography of his life, you are never going to meet anyone in person. A guy will lose interest far before the first date ever (doesnÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t) come. And if he doesnÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t, there is probably something wrong with him.
If YouÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ve Spoken on the Phone Do I like his voice? That might be all I need to know to tell if IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ll be attracted to him. A 2004 study found that a deep voice in men indicates both more symmetrical facial features and muscle mass, both of which I indicate as dead sexy. And call me old-fashioned, but when a guy asks me out on a date, I want it to be over the phone. Not via an email or a text message. A formal asking out just makes me feel more valued and comfortable, which brings me to my next deciding factorÃ¢â‚¬Â¦
When You Feel Comfortable Besides wearing jeggings, Uggs, and under wire-free bras, knowing a last name makes me feel more comfortable meeting a virtual stranger in person. Because then, and only then, can I effectively Google him.
How Many Dud Dates You Can Tolerate Going On The less time you wait to meet, the more dates you will go onÃ¢â‚¬Â¦but a higher percentage of them will be awful. But you still might get a free meal, and that should never go unappreciated.
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