Online dating can be nerve-racking. I just never thought about it racking male nerves, too.
But this week CPAguy made that truth abundantly (and painfully) clear. He texted me, Ã¢â‚¬Å“Sorry for texting, but I was afraid calling would be too forward.Ã¢â‚¬Â Then over the phone he said, Ã¢â‚¬Å“IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢m not sure if protocol is to meet for dinner or for drinks.Ã¢â‚¬Â And when we were finally sitting down for our drinks date, he asked, Ã¢â‚¬Å“So, online datingÃ¢â‚¬Â¦ HowÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s it working out for you?Ã¢â‚¬Â
Despite the awkwardness that was our entire interaction, I do have to thank CPAguy for it. He made me realize something that might just change my whole online-dating game plan: Maybe they arenÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t worried about what to wear, how the weather might ruin their hairstyle, and what color of nail polish to go with (IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢m really hoping they arenÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t worrying about that last one), but they still have plenty to worry about.
Online dating, unfortunately, still has somewhat of a peculiar rep. Women are nervous about serial killers, creepers, and just plain jerks. That means the good guys (and there are plenty of them online!) have to go out of their way to prove that they arenÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t actually mouth-breathers. They donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t want to come on too strong, put you in an uncomfortable situation, or seem like they have long (and unsuccessfully) been trolling dating sites.
And until guys have gone on enough dates with fellow online daters to figure out that balancing act, theyÃ¢â‚¬â„¢re going to be nervous. Luckily, that might make you a little less worried about your own jittery nerves.