Oct 27, 24 Expert tips and advice for a healthy relationship. Free PDF download

10 Tips for a healthy long-term relationship

  1. Invest in your relationship - time, energy, attention and love. Any living organism that doesn't receive the necessary nutrients for its survival will die, as will a relationship that isn’t consistently nurtured. Just by being on this page, you’re already ticking at least part of this box :-)
  2. Be kind, considerate and attentive - every day. Treat your partner the way you'd like to be treated yourself. You don't have to be religious to believe that this is just the right thing to do. If you're feeling angry with your partner too often, seek help!
  3. Show that you love, understand and believe in your partner without expecting anything back in return. And consciously notice and appreciate it when your partner does the same for you.
  4. Compliment your partner on three different things every day. They don’t have to be momentous - the simple things will do just fine. For example: their hair, their clothes, something they said or did, or a positive change in their behaviour. Can't think of anything? Try harder! After all, you’re with your partner for a reason. Remind yourself of all the things you love about them, and look out for opportunities to offer genuine compliments. If you need a little more help with this one, take a look at my free love advice article.
  5. Acknowledge - out loud - your partner’s strengths and abilities. Notice what pleases you, what you admire, what they’ve achieved or done particularly well. And let them know, at least two or three times a week, that you’ve noticed how capable, skilled or successful they are in their chosen pursuits.
  6. Thank your partner at the very least once a day for something specific they did that day, even if it was a routine act. Gratitude generates positive feelings on both sides.
  7. Smile a lot. Smile when he/she comes in, when they leave for work, when you say goodnight, and when you get up in the morning - even smile when you’re on the phone. You'll feel better and so will they. This is the easiest healthy relationship tip to put into practice right away - why not give it a try today :-) 
  8. Do your partner a favour by nurturing yourself as well as your relationship. Be kind and positive towards yourself. Nobody benefits from negativity and self-pity, least of all you!
  9. Banish negative people from your life. You'll feel tonnes better, and that’ll have a positive knock-on effect on your partner as well.
  10. Talk about all the stuff that matters. A problem shared is a problem halved, but don’t forget to take the time to share your hopes and dreams too. Strengthen your bond by thinking together about where you’re going, where you’d like to be, and how you’re going to get there - both individually and as a couple. 
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