A rough patch at the workplace or sudden unemployment can cause havoc in your man’s life. From messing up his self-esteem to making him prone to stress and anxiety to affecting his relationship with you, career woes can take a hard toll. However, you can lessen the agony by supporting him through this difficult period. Here’s how you can do it.
Don’t push too hard
You might be dying to offer some advice to draw your man out of his slump. However, be warned that this tactic might just backfire. With your guy already feeling emasculated, the last thing he wants is unhelpful advice from you pushed down his throat. A better way to deal with this would be to offer him your support in more subtle ways like asking him if he wants any help to strategise solutions. This way he will know that you will be there for him when he is ready for it.
Don’t nag or criticise
Even if you know that your man has been slacking off at work, possibly leading to this current crisis, saying “I told you so” or criticising him will drive him further away from you. Recognise the fact that he is perhaps ultra-sensitive at this moment so choose your words carefully. Ask him about his situation gently and offer you viewpoint in a non-judgemental, open-ended way.
It’s nothing to do with you
Don’t take it personally if your man has been acting cold and gruff with you. He is probably just preoccupied with the setback in his career and he really wouldn’t want you to make it a relationship thing at this juncture. Give him his space and be a little understanding. However, don’t withhold intimacy even if he seems forbidding. A warm hug and perhaps even sex, if he’s up for it, can help ease his anxiety.
If your guy is weighed down by crises at work, you can be a pal and help him look at the brighter side of things. Take him out on a date night or try to sneak off on a weekend getaway to take his mind of work and remind him that there is more to life than temporary setbacks like these.
Show him some love
Career setbacks or unemployment can make your man feel worthless because, often, a man’s worth is tied to how successful he is at work. Gently encourage him and appreciate him for every little thing he does to show him that regardless of what happens, he is still your main man.