Un-scientific fact: Your chance of an inter-office sexcapade rises dramatically as the holidays get closer. While that's great news for your plot to finally make a move on the office cutie, it could be bad news for your employment status—if done incorrectly, that is.
“It’s natural to be attracted to the people you work with every day,” says Gail Saltz, Ph.D., author of The Ripple Effect: How Better Sex Can Lead To a Better Life and associate professor of psychiatry at the Weill-Cornell School of Medicine in New York City. But if you don't want to regret your holiday hookup, you've got to proceed with caution, says Saltz.
Here's how you can have your fun with your office crush at this year's shindig and have sex with him, too.
Pick a Person Who Isn’t Your Boss
...or employee. Thinking about shagging your superior or inferior—especially in the office—can definitely be a huge turn-on. But as hot as that fantasy is, it can totally result in a boner-killing legal battle.
"A lawsuit is the furthest thing from people’s minds when they’re contemplating getting busy at a company party,” says April Masini, relationship expert and author of Think and Date Like A Man: (Be the Woman who Gets the Man She Wants and Keeps Him!). But since these things happen, set your sights on a coworker at the same level as you, or better yet, someone in a totally different department, says Masini.
Keep an Eye on the Eggnog
As you probably know, having one too many can really screw with your orgasm and his ability to get it up. On top of that, getting super-tipsy can make it harder to read whether your office crush is into taking a sleigh ride with you, says Saltz. And that can get awkward—fast, she says. To keep your advances from blowing up in your face, stick with one or two drinks," says Saltz.
As annoying as it is, you still have to remember that your office party is technically "the office," and macking on each other in front of your colleagues is probably not the best way to go. “If you can’t postpone the hookup until after the party (what's the fun in that, right?), make sure that you’re getting it on in another room where no one can spot you, says Saltz. Trust us, you won't want to worry that your boss is imagining your sloppy makeout sesh during your next meeting.
Stick to Your Boundaries
There’s nothing shameful about giving or receiving a little holiday cheer—in bed. But obviously, you shouldn't go further than what you’re comfortable with. Though this rule pretty much goes for any sexual encounter, it's especially important for this situation, says Saltz. That's because you might have to see this person on a daily basis, and you don't want to be constantly reminded that they've seen your vag—unless you actually wanted them to.
What Happens in the Copy Room Stays in the Copy Room
Don't get us wrong—you totally have bragging rights for your epic holiday party hookup. But as much as you might want to tell your work wife about the sexcapade, the reality is that your coworkers might not be great at keeping secrets.
Plus, your (jealous) colleagues might imply that you're using your sexuality to get a raise or be salty that you got to Todd from IT before they did, says Saltz. There are lots of opinions when it comes to office flings, so it's best to keep it between you, the office hottie, and the copy machine you had sex next to. “You’ll want to proceed with a little less throw-caution-to-the-wind than you might with someone you met on Tinder,” says Saltz.
Set Him Straight
Even though you're not announcing your steamy sesh in your morning meeting, you shouldn't blacklist your partner in copy room crime either, says Masini. Instead, “make sure the two of you acknowledge what happened, and set the tone for what comes next," she says.
Whether your holiday bang was supposed to be a one-time thing or you actually have feelings for him, let him know what's up, she says. “It might feel super-awkward,” says Masini, "but not discussing it at all will leave one or both of you questioning your status."