Whether you’re out at a bar with friends or headed to work on public transit, copping an under-the-radar feel with your guy can feel super-hot. (Because there’s nothing hotter than sexual tension. Want it. Can’t have it. Ahhhh.)
But making a grab for his package (hopefully, when no one’s looking) isn’t always the strongest move in your seduction arsenal—and not just because it's hardcore PDA. “There are specific points on the body, in discreet locations, that have higher concentrations of nerve endings and can stimulate the sexual arousal system,” says clinical sexologist Kat Van Kirk, Ph.D. These little pockets of pleasure can be touched anywhere, anytime—even, say, at Christmas dinner.
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One of the most masculine spots on his body (and a personal favorite of ours on Scott Eastwood) is also packed with pleasure receptors. “Lightly brush the tips of your fingers in a back and forth motion under his chin and jaw,” says Kirk. He’ll beg for you to bring your lips there later. Bow chika bow wow.
You know whispering into them gives him the goose bumps, but taking a super-light touch to his lobes can ignite a slew of sensory receptors there, as well. “You can play with his hair a little and then gently massage his earlobe with your thumb and forefinger," says Van Kirk. "Giving it a slight tug down can be very stimulating."
We don’t think of it as the most titillating body part, but there are loads of nerves hanging out under his arm hair, making it one hypersensitive spot. Use your fingertips to caress up and down the area, and you’ll give him the get-on-me-chills.
The Backside of the Elbow
“People don’t realize this is an erogenous zone, but rubbing his elbow in a circular motion and slightly pulling at some of that excess skin can feel pleasurable,” says Kirk. Just try not to sneak up behind him to avoid getting bowed in the face. Also, let’s hope he moisturizes.
Under the Thumb
“There’s a pressure point in that meaty spot between your thumb and your wrist, and you can use your own thumb to massage that area on his hand to excite him.” (Plus, suggestively rubbing his thumb up and down under the table will have him asking for the bill in about three seconds flat.)
The Nape of the Neck
One kiss on this spot and most of us fall to our knees. So it makes sense that massaging the area, which carries a ton of stress, with gentle pressure can help relax him and open the door for arousal. You can also use your fingers to graze it every so lightly to tease his senses.
The Lower Back
There’s no question this is a hot zone for women, but guys experience major sensitivity in the lower back, as well. (Not to mention, it’s dangerously close to his butt. Bonus.) Let your fingers graze past his low back or linger there for just a few seconds to give him a thrill, says Kirk.