Your family relationships are likely being steered, in part, by the way you've experienced your parents' rapport (or lack thereof). These questions can shed light on where some of your impulses stem from.
Who Ruled The Roost?
One person wears the pants in most twosomes, says therapist Chana Levitan, M.Sc., author of I Only Want to Get Married Once. Say it was your father. You might be most attracted to authoritative men (even if you weren't a fan of Dad's strict style). And if you end up with a tenderheart, you might subconsciously pressure him to toughen up.
Do Mom and Dad Depend on You?
If you're used to being the problem-solver, you could be playing that role for everyone in your life, says Kavita J. Patel, a love and relationship coach in New York City. You might lean toward "fixer-upper" guys who seem like they need your help to be happy.
Were Your Folks Into PDA?
If so, chances are you're pretty comfortable with intimacyÃ¢â‚¬”in the bedroom and out, says Levitan. If, however, your parents were the hands-off type, you might feel weirded out when a guy gets cuddly (or tries to plant one on you in public).
Were They Hypercritical?
If they both were, you probably are too. But if only one was, things get interesting, says Patel. Let's say your mom forever picked on your dad, and you felt closer to him; you may now not criticize your guy for fear of hurting him. But if you were closer to your mom, you may be inadvertently following her lead.
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