How 10 Different Brides Handled Getting Cold Feet

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Time for a reality check: Even the most enthusiastic brides will experience some ups and downs during the wedding planning process. In the midst of clashing with your guy over the hors d'oeurves, or dealing with yet another complaint from your future mother-in-law, you might find yourself wondering: Is this the right person for me? If you're experiencing a sudden and severe case of cold feet, know that you're not alone. Plenty of brides before you have felt this way, including these 10 women.

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2/11 Alyssa Zolna

“About a month before my wedding, I wasn’t sure if the guy I was marrying was the right person for me. I didn’t know what to do, or who to talk to, so I decided to scroll through the contacts in my phone and dial one person and one person only. I landed on a childhood friend of mine, who I told all my secrets to in middle school, and had stayed good friends with throughout the years. She talked me down the aisle.”—Clarissa, 29

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3/11 Alyssa Zolna

“I was so stressed out a week before my wedding, for a lot of reasons. I was busy at work, planning this entire wedding myself, and feeling constant push back from my family members over every decision I wanted to make. I think, because of all of that, I also felt like I had cold feet. I decided I needed to get away, so I jumped in the car, drove two hours, and stayed overnight at a hotel. I needed to clear my mind and figure everything out.”—Marnie, 34

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4/11 Alyssa Zolna

“I told my fiancé we had something we needed to talk about, and he thought I was just going to ask him his opinion on napkin colors. I told him the truth about how I was feeling and my change in feelings for him. Having that conversation made me realize that I wasn’t ready to get married, and that maybe he wasn’t the person I wanted to spend my life with. Talking it out is the only way, I think, to understand what your cold feet mean.”—Samantha, 39

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5/11 Alyssa Zolna

“All the wedding stress made me start to wonder if I actually wanted to get married in the first place. I decided I needed to take a step back and take myself out for a pizza dinner. Just spending a night at a table for one, eating my favorite thing, helped me clear my mind a little bit. It may sound silly, but getting that feeling might just mean you need some alone time with a good meal.” —Leisha, 28

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6/11 Alyssa Zolna

“I started getting cold feet about two months before my wedding. I don’t think it had anything to do with the person I chose to marry. It had to do more with the wedding I was planning. It was getting out of control. I wanted only 50 people there, and now I was planning a party for close to 200. Everything was slipping out of my hands, and I needed to gain control of this wedding thing by asking for help. I asked some close friends and my mom to step in and have an intervention with me, helping cut back on the things I really didn’t want in the first place. I started to feel better when I had a team of people helping me out.”—Jessica, 24

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7/11 Alyssa Zolna

“I’ve always been a big believer in the importance of following your gut. My gut was saying that none of this was right. It wasn’t the right venue, dress, flower selection, and, ultimately, guy. I had to face the facts and call the thing off. In the end, I trusted my gut and my gut is never wrong.”’—Sarah, 34

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8/11 Alyssa Zolna

“I started having cold feet about a month after getting engaged. I was young and none of my friends were married. I didn’t know if I was even ready to tie the knot, but I knew I wasn’t ready to plan my own wedding. I asked my parents for money to pay for a wedding planner. I started to feel better once I had a professional taking the reins of this whole wedding thing.” —June, 23

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9/11 Alyssa Zolna

“I didn’t just run away when I felt like I had cold feet, I decided to spend two weeks avoiding all things weddings. I stopped focusing on my wedding to-do list and stopped talking about my wedding. I tried to make my life feel normal again, and in doing so, I tried to focus on the relationship with the person I had agreed to marry. It reminded me how much I loved him and how everything else was just a wedding-planning headache.” —Danika, 36

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10/11 Alyssa Zolna

“I put a two-month moratorium on my wedding plans. I also delayed the wedding by a year and a half. I wanted to walk down the aisle sure of the person I was marrying. Pushing everything back made me realize that none of this should be rushed.” —Farrah, 30

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11/11 Alyssa Zolna

“It was that simple. I had cold feet a week before my wedding. I just knew this wasn’t right, and instead of going through with it, I called off the wedding. Sure, guests were disappointed, and my fiance was devastated. But in the end, it was the right thing to do and I’m glad I did it.” —Rachel, 32

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