Flowers on the First Date (aka No Second Date)

Ladies, spread the word: It is not okay for guys to give girls flowers on the first date—especially when it's a blind date.

That’s not to say I—or other women—don’t enjoy flowers. We actually love them. They’re pretty, they smell good… what’s not to love? But men have taken that love way too far. And it must be stopped. Flowers on the first date are too forward, make the guy look über needy, and are just plain obnoxious to deal with.

Case in point:

I recently had a first date with a guy I had met on OkCupid. We had great conversations online. He seemed cute, smart, genuine. I was psyched for our first date.

But then the first date happened...

Walking to the little Mexican restaurant where we planned to meet for dinner, I spot a guy with a huge (and I mean huge) bouquet of flowers.

What a dweeb, I think to myself. But then, barely visible from behind the obnoxious array of flowers, stands my date.

Now I get to be the dweeb. I gratefully take the flowers, give him a nice-to-meet-you-hug (I’m from the Midwest, so I hug strangers), and start my bouquet battle…

The flowers don’t fit on the tiny table, they don’t fit on my lap (not that I want to hold them there anyway), and I figure it’s rude to put them on the floor (he was, after all, trying to do something nice by giving me the flowers). Fumbling around with them, I look up at him for any sign as to what I should do. He just stares at me with no gentlemanly assistance whatsoever, so I put my poor Longchamp bag on the scuzzy floor as a makeshift tabletop for my first date flowers.

Leaving the date an hour later doesn’t make things any better. I have to get across town on the subway with this absurd bouquet of flowers. It gets whacked on the turn style into the station, crunched in the crowd in the train car, and generally just makes me look ridiculous.

When I got home, my cat ate my flowers. I still haven’t figured out why she did this, but I’m glad someone enjoyed them.

So you, ladies, are my messengers. Tell all the single guys you know that while we women love flowers, that doesn’t mean giving us flowers on the first date is a good idea. Rather, it’s actually a horrible idea. Together we can rid each other’s evenings of awkward first date flowers forever.

xo, Click-n-Tell

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