Do NOT Break Up With Someone Until You Ask Yourself These 8 Questions - Honestly

No one ever goes into a relationship thinking that they will break up. Still, over the course of your dating life, you will probably either be dumped or do the dumping at some point. When you are put into the position of breaking up with someone, however, the situation can get awkward real fast. No breakup happens overnight and it usually stems from repressed feelings or realizations that a relationship just isn't working. Before you make the decision to part ways, there are several questions you should ask yourself that will make the breakup as smooth as possible. There may be a few tears and unbearable silences, but with time and wine, you will both survive.

1. Why do I want to break up with this person?

This may seem like an obvious question and one your friends will inevitably ask (to which you'll have a rehearsed response). Outlining in bullet points or even writing down the reasons for breaking up can help you feel validated in your decision. It can even be as simple as writing a pros and cons list for breaking up. This is especially helpful for those who go back and forth between wanting to break up with their significant other and staying with them. Seeing your own feelings written out can give you a sudden epiphany like, "Why didn't we break up sooner?" And if you feel comfortable, confiding in a family member or friend who has no personal stake in the matter can help you feel more confident in your decision.

2. Is there a way to work out the issues in the relationship?

No relationship is perfect. Identifying the problems together, whether they be trust issues or lack of passion, will help you both come up with a plan to tackle the problems. Do you feel like your relationship lacks heat? Try this 30-day relationship challenge. Are there feelings of jealousy from either end? Discuss what (or who) is making either of you angry or uncomfortable. Was there infidelity in the relationship? Maybe counseling is an option if you both still love each other and want to make it work. Regardless of what the outcomes may be, clear communication from both parties will be the best closure to any breakup.

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