What's the deal with "morning wood"?Ã¢â‚¬”Jenny, Memphis, TN
Ahem, "nocturnal erections" are linked to two things, says Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., author of Sex Made Easy and a sex researcher at Indiana University: REM sleep patterns and early-morning spikes in testosterone. So when our flag is raised to full staff, our thoughts are relatively pure, but we're also surging with arousal hormones. Meaning? We're not exactly hornyÃ¢â‚¬”but we can be in two seconds.
I'm planning a special night with the guy I'm seeing. Should I give him fair warning or just surprise him?Ã¢â‚¬”Leah, Kent County, MD
Guys like surprises as much as girls do, but not when we're completely caught off guard by them. So before you make a plan, check that he has the evening clear a week or so beforehand. Then, the day before, tell him whether or not he should dress nicely, show up hungry, pack an overnight bag, etc. And lastly, pick a surprise that he will love. A private tasting of his go-to bourbon, a dinner at his favorite restaurant, or a couples massage for his sore back should leave him truly speechless.