No doubt, you have a good thing going with your vibrator. You whip it out when you want (or need) some assistance, it pushes the right buttons, and then you go about your life.
But just like reverting to the same position every time you have sex can get old, experts say you can develop vibe fatigue, too. “It can become routine…and then monotony sets in,” says board-certified clinical sexologist Debra Laino, Ph.D.
You’re also in danger of only being able to orgasm when your vibrator is present. “If you always use the same vibrator in the same way, orgasmically you can become over-reliant,” says clinical sexologist Kat van Kirk, Ph.D.
So try these techniques and positions to make your vibe usage (solo and with a partner) anything but ordinary:
Avoid Your Clitoris
…At first, at least. “Many women have discovered that they find indirect clitoral stimulation to the side or above the clitoris even more arousing,” says van Kirk. So lightly run your vibe up your labia, and circle your clitoris without actually touching it. Once you can’t take it any more, go in for the kill.
Be a Tease
Have your partner slowly run your vibrator up and down your upper thighs, getting close to your clitoris but not quite touching it.
Work Your Neck
Your neck is an erogenous zone, too, so take advantage. Lie back on your bed, close your eyes, and lightly run your vibe up and down one of side of your neck before switching to the other side. “You might be surprised at how much more pleasure there is to be had,” says van Kirk. Once you feel good and turned on, slowly work your way south.
There’s no reason not to use it on yourself when your partner is there, too. So during a makeout session with your guy, press your vibe up against his perineum (the spot between his anus and penis) to get things going before moving it over to use it on yourself. “Mutually masturbating can be a nice change,” says Laino, adding that you can also have your guy use it on you while you get him off.
Prop Yourself Up
Lie down in bed, and put a few pillows under your butt to prop yourself up. While your guy is giving you oral, run your vibe back and forth across your nipples.
Hand It Over
Try a little light BDSM: Have your guy loosely tie you up, and let him use your vibrator on you any way he wants. “There's something exciting about not having control,” says Laino.
Prop a waterproof vibrator up on one of the sides of your tub walls, and kneel down in front of it. Grip the side of the tub, press your body against it, and rub your clitoris up and down over the vibe.
A New Twist on Doggy
Lie flat on your stomach, and slip your clitoral vibrator under you. Then, have him penetrate you from behind. This requires little to no effort on your end, so just lay there and enjoy the ride.
Grab a Couples Vibe
Invest in a couple's vibe, like a penis ring with a bullet vibrator, so you can both get stimulated at once. “Couple-oriented penis rings are a great option to make sure you get this stimulation hands-free and he gets to enjoy the sensation as well,” says van Kirk.