There’s the tingling feeling all over your body that tell you you’ve got physical chemistry with someone … but those are just what we like to refer to as “sparks flying.” While physical sparks mean a lot, but there’s more to love and relationships than just a few hot feelings and make out sessions.
Do you want a relationship that will go the distance? If so, make sure to look for these signs of chemistry with your date that go way beyond the physical stuff.
1. Your Sense Of Humor Jives
You can find someone “hot,” but you won’t fall head over heels unless you two share the same sense of humor.
If your date makes you laugh and vice versa, it’s a sign of chemistry and compatibility. When you’re old and gray, don’t you want someone who will make you laugh so much that you just might pee your pants? Yes, you do! Hey, at that age, you won’t care!
2. You Can Sense Your Date’s Perspective
As you’re dating, you get to know how the other views things. When you have chemistry with someone, this is so much easier. You start to intuitively sense how your date will react or respond to things because you both have a grasp on how you two see the world and life in a general way.
3. Your Touches Match
You don’t need to be twinsies, but when you have chemistry with someone, you sort of naturally “know” and can decipher how much touch the person wants, and when.
For example, I had a date with a guy who kept asking to hold my hand even though my body language and chair placement at the bar showed I was “hands off.” However, when with someone I share chemistry with, he knows how and when I would like to be touched, whether it is a hug or grazing my hand or leg.
4. You Want To Be Snuggly
There are plenty of men I found attractive but I didn’t necessarily want to be lazy in bed all day with them or hug them continuously like I might another.
Chemistry is not just about sexual spark, but compassionate love and affection.
5. Your Date Senses If Something Upsets You
When you share chemistry with each other, you can hone in on how the other is feeling. A date that connects with you can tell if, for example, a stranger’s comment upset you. He or she notices if you’re tired, preoccupied, confused, etc. You are both on the same radio frequency.
6. Your Conversations Flow
Sure, we all get a little nervous on the first date or two, but when you share chemistry with someone, the conversation and its pace flows naturally once you get past those first awkward moments.
Silent moments are easily shared when you have chemistry with someone like this, but over those first few dates and months, there is little silence as the two of you devour learning about the other. It’s like you can’t get enough of each other.
7. Your Boundaries And Rules Break
You had set rules about who and when you were going to date. You had set rules about letting someone in.
But when you have real chemistry with someone, these rules and boundaries can be broken. That person’s love and connection wraps around your heart in ways you couldn’t have expected.
8. You Try New Things
When you share a special energy with someone, that person will open your mind to possibilities in new ways that you had never imagined before. That person will have you rock climbing even if you hate heights. Meanwhile, your date will start attending art shows with you, even if he never was interested in or liked it in the past.
Chemistry and connections can open a person’s mind and heart in unexpected ways. Beyond the physical, real chemistry goes much deeper. It’s the thoughts, things and time we share with someone that links us closer and closer until, eventually, you fall in love.