The female orgasm can be hard to come by from a purely physical standpoint. And when your mind gets involved—forget about it. “Women especially complain about not being able to turn off their minds and focus on sex or even masturbating,” says Karen Stewart, Psy.D., a clinical psychologist specializing in sexual dysfunction and relationships.
Problem is, we have so damn much going on that it’s tough to completely disconnect. “Women are more prone to distracting thoughts because they often have numerous roles in their lives and feel more guilt about sex,” says Stewart.
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