By Amanda Chatel for YourTango
Why oh why do we fall into the trap of sleeping with our exes? Even when we know it's not a halfway decent idea, it doesn't stop so many of us from doing it. We've all slept with an ex at some point, haven't we?
In YourTango's recent Break Up With Your Ex survey, the site found that after nostalgia and fear of being alone, the most common reason people don't move on from their exes is because of the sex. Since so many of us have made this horrible mistake, we logged on to the world of social media to see what lessons were learned from banging your ex, if anything at all:
1. You realize it really is over.Ã¢â‚¬Â¨Sometimes you need just one more night of passion so you can both figure out you're soulmates, you say? "It seemed like old times at first, but then afterward it was awkward," says Nicole, 33. "We had nothing to say to each other! We literally just talked about the weather. It was just really, REALLY over."
Lesson? You broke up for a reason.
2. Once an a**hole, always an a**hole.Ã¢â‚¬Â¨Jo should have known better than to think her ex had changed, but apparently she had to sleep with him again so she could relearn what she already knew. "I thought we were on the road to getting back together because sleeping together was so fun and comforting," says the 31-year-old. "But you can't change someone, and he was still the same cheating a**hole he was when we dated."
Lesson? People don't change, especially the worst ones.
3. You get to be the bad one for a change.Ã¢â‚¬Â¨It's nice when the roles are reversed, especially if you're the one who had their heart brokenÃ¢â‚¬”until you get a Stage Three Clinger. "We slept together ONCE after we broke up, and next thing I knew she wouldn't leave me alone," says Alexandre, 36. "She cheated, she broke up with me, and now this? I got to be the jerk in the scenario when I turned her down, but I realized I don't like being the jerk."
Lesson? Getting even only feels good if you're really a jerk.
4. It's harder to kick out an ex than a one-night stand.Ã¢â‚¬Â¨Although many of us have mastered the art of subtly getting a one-night stand to high-tail it out of our place the next morning, it's not so easy when that person knows you and your habits.
As Jennie, 30, explains, "He knew that on Sunday morning I made myself breakfast, hung around my apartment until about 3 p.m., then went to study or do workÃ¢â‚¬”I was in my last year of college. Sunday was MY day to be alone and do my thing, but because he knew this, he wouldn't leave. I kept telling him that I had plans, but he just kept lying there in my bed smiling and laughing as I got angrier and angrier. Finally, after at least an hour of arguing, I got in the shower, got dressed up, and went into townÃ¢â‚¬”on my lazy day!"
Lesson? If you need to get laid, opt for someone who's a stranger. (Ahem, revenge sex.)
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