7 Sexual Hang-Ups That Don't Deserve Space in Your Head (or Your Bed)

Nothing messes with a girl's sex life quite like the critical thoughts that strike mid-freak. Between body insecurities and awkwardness around bodily functions, plenty of women feel pressure between the sheets—and not in a good way.

Here are seven things your vagina wants you to stop obsessing about during sex—because nothing should get in the way of your opportunity to orgasm.

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No matter how skilled you are in the beej department, a super-sensitive gag reflex can ruin the mood. To put the kibosh on, well, hurling, cup the base of his penis with one hand and just suck the head, says board-certified clinical sexologist Debra Laino. Once you're ready to go full-on fellatio, prevent your gag reflex from giving you 'tude by gripping your guy at the halfway point of his shaft, moving your mouth up and down to that point. Or, you know, just don't do it at all.

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For some people, dirty talk is as natural as talking about the weather. For others, not so much. Getting tongue-tied when your S.O. wants you to say something X-rated can make you feel all sorts of awkward. "Brush up on your skills by reading erotic lit or watching some female-friendly porn," says certified sex therapist Kat Van Kirk, Ph.D. "Pick out two or three phrases that really get you going, then experiment with your partner." Seriously, he won't mind.

Or, you know, just don't do it. It's that simple.

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Once air is thrust into the vaginal canal, it can only be released by repositioning. (You know the rest.) Sure, the sound isn't pleasant, but you don't want to be so determined to finish sans queef that you miss out on the fact that you're totally having sex right now. "There's no such thing as silent sex," says Van Kirk. Whether it's your vag causing a ruckus or other body parts grinding up against each other, they're going to make themselves heard—and you should too.

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Wondering if you smell funny down yonder is something we all think about (especially when your guy's face is like, right there). But as long as you practice moderate-to-good hygiene on the regular, there's nothing to worry about. "Every woman has a personal odor, and it's often musky," says Laino. "Men generally like this smell and find it erotic. Own it." If you know you're getting lucky and have a few minutes to spare, you can always wash up with a fragrance-free soap, dry off, and rub a little coconut oil down there, which has an antibacterial and anti-fungal effect, she adds.

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Guys really don't care what your boobs look like during sex—they're just happy to see them. But if you find it uncomfortable when they're flailing about (especially during cowgirl), wear a sexy push-up bra and let the girls pop out a little, says Laino.

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We're well aware that everybody poops, we just prefer doing the deed on the throne, not on the boyfriend. To avoid feeling like your business is about to explode, do not have anal sex on a full stomach, says Laino. Empty your bowels before the fact and shower up.

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Being that orgasms are the sh*t, the last thing you should worry about is what your face looks like when it happens. "When someone is focused too much on what they look like, we call it spectating," says Van Kirk. Ironically, when you're hyper-focused on what your O face looks like, you destroy your chances of experiencing one. "Being in the moment and focusing on sensation can help you really experience pleasure," says Van Kirk. Amen.

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