This article was written by Bailey Gaddis and provided by our partners at YourTango.
I was six months pregnant and the sex dreams were coming on strong. I craved the moment my husband would get home so we could close the blinds and get down.
My girlfriends assured me that this intense horniness would all disappear as soon as I became a mother. They were wrong—it just got hotter.
Here's what giving birth taught me about sex.
1. My Body Was Made for Full Expression
Moving through childbirth taught me to honor my body with complete reverence. This reverence allowed me to strip away my inhibitions and experience the pleasure of sex without constraint.
2. Pre-Planned Sex Is Sexy
With a baby requesting the services of my breasts the majority of the day, the freedom to surprise my partner with spontaneous sex went out the window. We had to plan to make physical intimacy a regular affair. Committing to our sexual relationship added a new level of devotion to it. We didn't just wait for it to happen; we made it happen.
3. I Figured Out How My Vagina Works
I was never that connected to my lady parts before giving birth. It just did stuff I wasn't aware of. During childbirth, I tapped into my vaginal muscles, learned to relax my perineum, and felt the power of clitoral stimulation to release blessed oxytocin. Now, I know how to work it during sex.
4. Quality Trumps Quantity
When my son was an infant, it was rare for him to sleep more than thirty minutes at a time. Quickies became the name of our sex game. My partner and I knew that we needed to make it count. Instead of focusing on the ticking clock, we focused on trying to make the most of each second, and it made each touch super sexually charged.
5. Having an Orgasm Isn’t a Must
Though it is the best. If our flow is cut short without the charge being fully released, we're buzzing until we have our next chance to get back at it.
6. Anticipation Makes Things Hot
We had to wait six weeks after the birth of our son to have sex. While I had extraordinary discomfort while my vagina healed, I also had pangs of desire. Absence can make the lady bits grow fonder.