4 Ways To Continue Staying Friends With A Frenemy

Frenemy - we all have one such person (or more) in our lives whom we love, but also hate. These are our friends, but at times they are also our worst enemies. And while you want to quit the relationship because it is turning toxic, you also want them around because on some level you do like them. Maintaining relationships with a frenemy can be tricky at the best of times; however, there is a solution. If you have a frenemy that you just can't quit, here are some rules that will help you be friends and also not break your heart.

1. Be on your guard

4 Ways To Continue Staying Friends With A Frenemy

Easier said than done! When you are with this person, always know that they don't always have your best interests at heart. Be on your guard, and think twice before you share your personal secrets with this friend. Do not make the mistake of forgetting that they are your frenemy, and treat them like a friend instead. Be wary of them, at all times.

2. Have the "I don't trust you" conversation

4 Ways To Continue Staying Friends With A Frenemy

Rather than living with the constant stress of when this person will turn around and mess the relationship up, sit them down and have a chat. Talk about how you really like them, or you enjoy spending time with them, but when it comes to being friends, you are a little unsure. This way they get the heads up that you don't trust them, and they might put in that extra effort too to make this work.

3. Don't stoop to their level

4 Ways To Continue Staying Friends With A Frenemy

Sometimes you might want to simply give in and hurt them back, or gossip about them to your other friends. However, remember that you are struggling to make this relationship work because there is some part of you that really does like them. So instead of being petty and keeping score, chart this as one of those "you can't do anything to change them" friendships.

4. Try to understand where they are coming from

4 Ways To Continue Staying Friends With A Frenemy

If this person is trying hard to be your friend, but occasionally slips up and ends up being full on nasty, there has got to be a deeper issue. To borrow a cliché, try to put yourself in their shoes, and understand why they are doing what they are. This will also help you deal with the relationship better.

At the end of the day, the thing to remember is that this is going to be a tricky relationship no matter what. You like each other, but there are also elements that you hate, and those most probably will never go away. The one thing you can do is recognise the relationship for what it is, be honest and walk away the moment this starts affecting your self esteem. Till then, try these out and make Blair Waldorf proud!

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