By Michelle Toglia for YourTango
Whether you've been together for two years or 16, you know how important passion is in your relationship. But did you know how key fantasies are in having a happy relationship? Being able to communicate your desires to your partner, keep things new, and add imagination to sex will do wonders for youÃ¢â‚¬”both in the bedroom and outside of it.
About 95 percent of people report that they have sexual fantasies. According to a study conducted at the University of Granada, women have pleasant romantic fantasies more frequently than menÃ¢â‚¬”a few times a month. Men, however, fantasize more frequently about sexcapades involving being promiscuous, being a swinger, and participating in an orgy.
But don't let these preferences hold you back. There are tons of fantasies to try with your significant other. Shares your desires, experiment, and discover what works best for you both as a couple. You may surprise yourselfÃ¢â‚¬”and get closer to your partner in the process.
1. Boss and Employee Fantasy
Fifty-six percent of women and 61 percent of men have sexual fantasies about getting it on with co-workers in their office. So why not dress up in your work attire, get behind the desk, and re-create the hot new hookup scenario that's been on your mind? The allure of having sex with a coworker, especially your boss, has to do with gaining power. And thatÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s hot.
Power is a rush, there's no doubt about it. Many women dream about having a man obey their every wish, so why not unleash your inner dominatrix and try it out in the bedroom? You can do this by simply calling all the shots or by experimenting with whips, handcuffs, etc. Either way, you'll be in total control, and he'll be completely devoted. Win, win.
3. Have Sex Outside
Want the thrill of getting it on outside the bedroom without the risk of getting caught? Embrace the elements, and try doing it in a secluded area outside at night. The grass, the sand, the poolÃ¢â‚¬”the great outdoors is your sex playground.
4. Be an Exhibitionist
In his study of sexual fantasy, Who's Been Sleeping in Your Head?, Brett Kahr found 19 percent of people fantasize about being watched during sexÃ¢â‚¬”and another 5 percent fantasize about taking their clothes off in public. In for the risk? Put on a show. Get it on near the windows in your home or hotel room.
5. Be Voyeuristic
Does watching the show from the sidelines turn you on? Whether you're spying on the neighbors or the couple getting it on at the beach, this fantasy is a common one. One easy way to make it happen? Go to a nude beach or a sex show with your partner.
6. Watch Each Other Masturbate
Put a twist on your voyeuristic fantasy by watching your partner masturbateÃ¢â‚¬”or letting them watch you. It will help them better understand what you desire, and of course, it's an instant turn on.
7. The Stranger Fantasy
Sharing a fantasy for the very first time? Here's an easy one both men and women enjoy. There's something sexy and mysterious about anonymity. In fact, the LELO Global Sex Survey discovered that having sex with a stranger is on the rise this year. An easy way to get in on the trend: Turn yourselves into strangers. No matter how long you've known your partner, pretend you don't know him at all. Choose different clothes, new hairstyles, different personalities, different names. Start by meeting at a bar, then take your new friend homeÃ¢â‚¬”and stay in character the entire time.
8. Make A Sex Video
While men may be more visual, women are interested in porn, too. A Stanford University study found that women reach their peak arousal after just two minutes into an erotic flick. According to Men's Health, it's not just celebrities who want to make sex tapesÃ¢â‚¬”40 percent of women want to make a homemade flick with their partners. In 2012, 28 percent of women made a sex video with their guy, and in 2014, that number is expected to climb to 52 percent. So get on it while it's hot. After you watch it, though, make sure to hide it safely or quickly delete it.
9. Threesome Fantasy
Want to get it on with your partner and another man or woman? Threesomes are a popular fantasyÃ¢â‚¬”and they're trendier than ever. The LELO study revealed that this year, 20 percent of women have had a threesome. They say they love the rush and added stimuli.
10. Have Sex In Public
According to Men's Health, 64 percent of women want to step outside the bedroom and get frisky in public. It makes sense: The rush, risk of getting caughtÃ¢â‚¬”it all adds to your experience. Talk about where you both feel comfortable doing the deed, whether it's an elevator, a bathroom, or your backyard.
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