If you're lucky, you’ve had plenty of clitoral orgasms. You may have even had some G-spot orgasms. And experts say it’s possible to have them together with a blended orgasm, a.k.a. the Holy Grail of climaxing.
Clearly, it’s a little more complex than having one or the other, but Amy Levine, sex coach and founder of Ignite Your Pleasure, says it’s doable—with a little work.
To get a blended orgasm, you obviously have to stimulate your clitoris and G-spot at once. That said, the process can be a little different depending on what kind of sexual situation you’re in:
You know what works for you, so start that way. Focus on stimulating your clitoris with your hand or a hands-free toy. Once you’re revved up, insert a G-spot curved toy (it’s designed to hit the spot), and keep on stimulating your clitoris.
It’s important to wait until you’re aroused to insert the toy because your G-spot doesn’t show up, so to speak, until you’re truly turned on, says Levine.
Warm up with whatever feels good, having your guy focus in on your clitoris.
When you’re turned on (but haven’t orgasmed yet), have him slowly insert his finger and use it in a come-hither motion. (To help him find your G-spot, lay back on your bed and prop your legs up. Have him insert a finger into your vagina with his palm facing up. Your G-spot is halfway between your vaginal opening and cervix and should feel a little rough, like the surface of a walnut.)
If you have one handy, he can use a G-spot curved toy instead of his fingers to hit the spot while he continues to work your clitoris with his mouth.
Levine recommends having him stimulate your clitoris with his fingers or a toy during foreplay. Then, when you’re really turned on, start doing it doggy style (it’s a good position to hit your G-spot). Instead of having your arms straight in the position, lower yourself so that you’re propped up on your elbows. This lifts and tilts your pelvis for maximum G stimulation.