13 Women Share How Their Lives Changed After They Called Off Their Weddings

It’s not uncommon for a bride to get cold feet before her wedding day, whether due to planning stress or jitters about sticking with the same dude, you know, forever

While some brides push past the nerves, others realize those nagging concerns are actually indicative of a serious problem in their relationship. Calling off a wedding is something nobody ever wants to do—and even if shoving those invitations in the trash winds up being the best decision ever, it likely won't be easy.

Here’s the truth about how life changed for these 13 women who didn't make it down the aisle.

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1/13 Alyssa Zolna

“It was a giant sigh of relief calling the wedding off. Everyone always says that trusting your gut is the most important thing. When my gut kept telling me not to marry this person and I decided to call off the engagement and the wedding, I felt like I could take deep breaths again, and I felt like a giant ball of stress was rolling off my shoulders.” —Britney Q., 29

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2/13 Alyssa Zolna

“I didn’t want to end things, my fiancé did. We were only engaged for two months when one night he told me he didn’t think he loved me anymore and that he didn’t want to get married. I thought maybe he was sick with a fever or just having a bad week at work. Two days later, he moved out and asked for the ring back. I was seriously so shocked. I wouldn’t leave my apartment. I was hardly willing to eat anything. For the first time in my life, I started seeing a therapist and I saw her every week for a year and a half straight.”—Mary H., 30

Women call off their wedding
3/13 Alyssa Zolna

“It’s going to sound insane, but we called off the wedding because we were constantly fighting and our relationship was falling apart. We decided to take a step back and see if we could work out our problems. Turns out we did. It was the stress of wedding planning and our crazy family members that was ripping us apart. We worked on improving our communication and our overall relationship, and when things were good again, we just eloped. The wedding planning stuff is enough to make strong couples split up.” —Kelly P., 28

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4/13 Alyssa Zolna

“My parents spent a lot of money on our wedding, giving deposits to vendors and paying up front for a lot of things like my invitations and my dress. They were taking care of the whole entire bill. So when I decided I didn’t want to get married anymore, they were pretty upset. It was three months before the wedding and they were out over $30,000 at that point, and they owed at least another $20,000. They kept asking me to reconsider and I kept saying that I wasn’t going to get married because of money, even though it was a lot of money they had to spend. They didn’t talk to me for a good six months after the wedding. It’s been three years and things aren’t the same with us. I’ve been working my butt off to pay them back. I’m still pretty happy I didn’t go through with the wedding. If I ever want to get married again, there’s a zero percent chance my parent’s will pay a dime for anything. It kind of sucks.”—Claire T., 26

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5/13 Alyssa Zolna

“It’s weird, because it was my decision to call off the wedding and everything, yet I was the one who took quite the emotional blow after calling it off. My ex rebounded pretty fast. Our mutual friends even told me he started dating someone a couple months after. I was pretty upset for a while. I didn’t miss him or regret my decision; I just had a hard time dealing with the whole thing being over. It’s not easy to move on, even when you know it’s the right thing to do.” —Vickie J., 32

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6/13 Alyssa Zolna

“I thought to myself since I wasn’t going to use the money I had set aside for a wedding anymore, that I should use it on things I wanted. I was now single, after four years of dating someone I thought I wanted to marry, so I wanted to go on an adventure. I used the $10,000 I had personally saved on my dream wedding for three solo vacations and a brand-new wardrobe. I’m guessing that decision was the only reason I was able to land on my feet when my ex-fiancé and I decided to call off our wedding and our relationship.” —Priscilla L., 29

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7/13 Alyssa Zolna

“I broke up with my fiancé a month before the wedding. It was horrible. I found out he was cheating on me. I had a friend give me cliché advice and [she] said that there are more fish in the sea and I should go find them. I had two choices: sulk in misery or download Tinder. I did the latter and became a dating machine. I’ve been on 40 first dates in a year and a half. Still haven’t found my new fish, but I am spending my free time now exploring the sea.” —Nina W., 27

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8/13 Alyssa Zolna

“I’ll tell you the truth, I’ve never been happier. I got engaged when I was 23 and was planning on getting married the day after I turned 24. I was way too young for married life. We both looked at each other six months into being engaged and decided we weren’t ready, so we broke up. I’m 26 now and finally able to live my life and not have to worry about someone else. I’m way too young for that.” —Roxy H., 26

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9/13 Alyssa Zolna

“I’m embarrassed to say this, but I was so indecisive. I had cold feet two weeks before our wedding. I called it off and was a runaway bride. I literally got into my car and drove two states over and spent a week in a hotel alone. I was freaking out. Turns out it was just me being scared of the word 'forever' and I ended up begging the guy to get back with me. I convinced him a few months later to give me a second chance. We’re engaged again now.” —Jessica H., 30

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10/13 Alyssa Zolna

“When you call off a wedding, you also call off a relationship. It’s awful. I was with my ex for 10 years, OK? When it was over, I seriously didn’t know what to do with myself. I felt like half of me was missing. I worked full-time but then hated coming home to an empty house, so I took on a part-time job where I worked nights and weekends. I was working 60 to 75 hours a week just to stay busy. This lasted for three years.” —Michelle U., 34

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11/13 Alyssa Zolna

“I came out of my shell after the whole wedding incident. I called it off and said goodbye to a six-year relationship. He made me shy and timid. When I left him, I became outgoing and friendly. I saw friends again I [hadn't seen] in years. I was happy. I felt like a brand new person. Really, I did.” —Sarah W., 31

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12/13 Alyssa Zolna

“I had like post-traumatic wedding disorder or something. I used to love weddings and parties, but when I called mine off, I refused to step foot in another wedding for two years. If I even tried to, I would have a breakdown outside and just get in my car and go home. It was terrifying and stressful.”—Deb M., 29

Women call off their wedding
13/13 Alyssa Zolna

“I always regret everything I do. If I don’t buy a shirt I semi-like when I go shopping, I can’t forgive myself for days. But breaking off this wedding was seriously the most decisive thing I’ve ever done. I don’t regret it at all. I don’t miss him or our relationship. I said goodbye and never looked back. I was proud of myself for having the courage to do that.” —Connie H., 30

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