We’re so over the stereotype that couples in long-term relationships have lame sex—plenty of people manage to keep their freak alive long after the honeymoon phase!
Researchers from Chapman University recently asked nearly 40,000 married or cohabiting men and women who had been together for at least three years about their bedroom behavior, and the study authors found that sexually satisfied couples have more than a few things in common.
Here, the 11 tricks men and women who were still happy in the sack did more often than those whose sex lives were lacking.
Feel free to take notes.
1. Switch Up Sex Positions
This might seem like a no-brainer, but sexually satisfied couples make a habit of getting experimental in the boudoir. Cowgirl is only the beginning, baby.
2. Get Dressed Up
Long-term couples also love their lingerie. No matter what your style, knowing you have something scandy underneath your date-night ensemble is an immediate confidence booster. Lace up and prepare to master the sexy strut.
3. Get Wet
The couple that showers together stays together. At least, according to the lovebirds in the survey. Sexually satisfied ladies and gents were more likely to hit the showers every once in a while to keep things hot. Is it just us, or is it getting steamy in here?
4. Pay a Little Lip Service
Sometimes just talking about your turn-ons is enough. Men and women who discussed their wildest fantasies with their long-term lovers reported more satisfaction between the sheets.
5. Set the Mood
Sexually satisfied couples also reported more mood-setting behaviors, like lighting candles and playing music. Time to Marvin Gaye and get it on…
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6. Rub It Out
It’s not surprising that getting a little handsy brings couples closer together in the bedroom. Giving (or receiving) a massage gets the oxytocin flowing.
7. Get Away
According to the data from lovey-dovey couples, making time to go away together is an essential part of keeping the sparks flying. Must be all that vacation sex.
8. Take It to the Toy Store
Sometimes sexual chemistry includes a little outside help. Apparently, couples with lasting sexual bonds aren’t afraid to break into the goody drawer for a good time. Go ahead, get buzzed.
9. Adventure into Anal
Maybe it's not your thing, but couples who were happy with their partner were more likely to report trying anal stimulation. Whether you dive into full on anal sex or start slowly with some spanking, a little exploration can’t hurt.
10. Set a Date
Scheduling sex gets a bad rap, but couples who pencil in their boots-knockin' are actually better off than couples who don’t make it a priority in their planners, according to the study.
11. Take Your Time
Half of satisfied men and women reported that their last sexual encounter lasted more than 30 minutes compared to only 26 percent of dissatisfied men and 19 percent of dissatisfied women. Quickies are great, but when it comes to stoking the sexual fires, nice and slow is the winning approach.